Honoring Your Parents Through Forgiveness
September 18 — Honoring Your Parents Through Forgiveness
Read Ephesians 4:31-32
Unfortunately there are times when a parent’s sinful decision causes great pain or disappointment for their child. As a result, the relationship between the parent and child becomes strained, or in some cases, completely severed. Depending on what the parent did, the child may feel justified in his feelings of anger or resentment. However, a child that is a believer cannot let such feelings hinder him from being able to forgive his parents. While it may be difficult at times, believers are still called to forgive others, “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32). One thing that will help a child struggling to forgive his parents for something wrong that they did is to remember how much God has forgiven them for their sins. Forgiveness for others becomes easier once we have been humbled by our own need for forgiveness. By forgiving one’s parents, the child not only restores honor to his relationship with his parents, but he also bring honor to his Heavenly Father.
When Anger Becomes a Sin
Ephesians 4:26 says, “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger…” Anger within itself is not a sin, but if it is not dealt with properly and in a timely manner, then it can lead to sin. When a parent’s sinful choice hurts their child, it is normal for the child to be upset or angry about the situation. The problem comes when the child does not deal with his anger. The longer a conflict goes unaddressed between the parent and the child, the more difficult it becomes to restore the relationship. Anger that is not dealt with often times can lead to bitterness and resentment. Once bitterness and resentment begin to take root in one’s heart, it becomes increasingly difficult to forgive someone. Although it may be difficult to address the conflict between the parent and the child, for the sake of the relationship, it is crucial.
How can one honor their parents through forgiveness?